martes, 29 de diciembre de 2009



Using Your Smile

I used to smile wrong. I would spot an attractive woman, make eye contact with her and then smile full-tilt. My expression jumped from dour to grinning in a split second. This came across as forced and awkward and kept me celibate for years. A woman would think, 'Why is this guy suddenly smiling at me? What did I do? Is there mustard on my blouse?' I would make her feel uncomfortable and paranoid. I didn't come across as a happy outgoing person but rather as a person who put her on the spot.

You probably have had the experience of hanging out with some friends in public. Maybe it was at a restaurant or maybe a shopping mall. You were happy and laughing and smiling. But then you turned away from your group briefly and caught a stranger's eye. That was when an amazing-thing happened. Even though your smile was a random ‘drive-by' smile and not meant for that person, the stranger warmly returned it. Maybe it was an old man, maybe it was a punk rocker, maybe it was a hot girl, and maybe you turned away in surprise but the exchange felt organic.

lunes, 28 de diciembre de 2009


How To Seduce Your Woman

Any girl beyond the age of puberty has an instinctive ability to get horny and desire sex - but most men have not learned how to trigger this instinctive response in the woman they desire. She may be "willing and able"... but he just doesn't know how to make her "ready" whenever HE is ready, willing and able to have sex. (Now YOU can learn how to seduce a woman into a state of "readiness" and lead her to do what she instinctively wants to do.)

A guy can "do special things" to a woman that can lead to a highly predictable emotional response - i.e. he can do things to make her laugh, or he can do things to make her cry - or he can do things to make her horny. (With the SSP system, you can learn the things that make a woman horny and then use them to make her horny for YOU.)

Instructor C.R. James (creator of "Super Sex Power: Magnetism") is an analytical genius who at one time worked for the U.S. Army Research Lab as a Signal Processing Engineering Specialist. Now he has decided to use his "computer brain" on psychologically based strategies for creating an intense sexual desire in women. Mission accomplished! (Now YOU can learn how to seduce your woman by using his psychological seducing techniques.)


miércoles, 23 de diciembre de 2009

Cocky and Funny

It just doesn’t make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction. I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard cocky and funny and saw cocky and funny being used. I kept thinking to myself, “If I do this cocky and funny thing, I’m only going to come across as arrogant… and that can’t make women like me more.”

Well, was I wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn’t logical. It doesn’t follow the rules that it “should” follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don’t make any sense at first glance. I’m sure you’ve seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you’d expect a woman to accept.

Why?

ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being “bad”, abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave. So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the cocky and funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk). First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky AND Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you’ll only come off as arrogant and insecure. If you’re just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as “too goofy.” But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky and funny is like sparring… it’s sport… it’s fun… it’s challenging… it’s interesting when used with skill. So let’s get clear about what “Cocky and Funny” is.

Here’s a cocky statement:

“Her dress makes her look fat.”

martes, 22 de diciembre de 2009

Breaking up is always more difficult for one person than it is for the other

I'll break up the guy that I've been dating for the past couple of months. We had an incident where he was late for a date and I was pissed off about it and he called me impatient.
He called me yesterday to discuss the issue in what I believe was a let me down easy speech. Now he never officially said that he was dumping me because whenever I asked he never said anything. He said that he didn't want to bring me into his lifestyle.

Surviving breakup

Most people experience this at some point or another. Even the most well-meaning of us can be late for a date.

But in this day and age of cell phones, a quick courtesy call is in order to keep emotions in check. It appears you really wanted to remain in this relationship, that even though you were upset, you didn't want to break up over this.

lunes, 21 de diciembre de 2009

How long to wait before making the first call to a woman?

There isn't really a rule of thumb about calling girls but unless you can avoid it you should call a girl within the week that you acquire her phone number.

If it is longer than seven days then she might think that you are not interested in her. Being genuinely interested shows her that you are a discreet man who will not cause her any problems and does not mind if she has a boyfriend.

When to ask a girl for a second date?

Ideally when you get her number you should call her within 1 or 2 days. It all really depends on of how of an attraction there was between the both of you and how much that your really like her.

Ask yourself what transpired in your conversations with the girls that you have called previously. However if it was just a casual chat and you did not offer somewhere for you both to meet then it is not likely that she will call you back.

viernes, 18 de diciembre de 2009

Sorry, but I have a boyfriend
Don't ever, never, ever ask if she has a boyfriend! Maybe she does, maybe not - so what, who cares?

Maybe she does, but wants to have a little fun - your prompting about a possible borefriend will put her off the mood, she'll move on to another guy and get what she came looking for anyway. Or maybe she does, but is also pretty curious about you and wouldn't want the existence of a boyfriend scare you away. She might even be considering dumping him in favour of you. Once you've extracted that information from her however, she might just write you off in her mind.

If however she blurts it out without prompting, it still doesn't mean anything. Maybe she really thought she wanted to scare you away, but she really didn't know what she was doing Take it humorously, be light-hearted and give her another chance

Using Your Smile

I used to smile wrong. I would spot an attractive woman, make eye contact with her and then smile full-tilt. My expression jumped from dour to grinning in a split second. This came across as forced and awkward and kept me celibate for years. A woman would think, 'Why is this guy suddenly smiling at me? What did I do? Is there mustard on my blouse?' I would make her feel uncomfortable and paranoid. I didn't come across as a happy outgoing person but rather as a person who put her on the spot.

You probably have had the experience of hanging out with some friends in public. Maybe it was at a restaurant or maybe a shopping mall. You were happy and laughing and smiling. But then you turned away from your group briefly and caught a stranger's eye. That was when an amazing-thing happened. Even though your smile was a random ‘drive-by' smile and not meant for that person, the stranger warmly returned it. Maybe it was an old man, maybe it was a punk rocker, maybe it was a hot girl, and maybe you turned away in surprise but the exchange felt organic.

A right and a wrong way to give compliments to girls

There is a right and a wrong way to give compliments to girls. In fact, there is a way that is very very right, and a way that is very very wrong.

Some guys will tell you not to give compliments at all, but giving compliments can be a very powerful technique when done right.

Wrong Compliments

The wrong sort of compliments come from a place of perceived lower value.

This is how AFCs compliment chicks. They say "You're so pretty" or "You're so clever" and the subcommunication is "I hope someone like you could be interested in me!"

Proper Compliments

Conversely, proper compliments actually subcommunicate higher value. They should come from a position of authority and imply a unique quality or commonality.

The proper structure for an effective compliment is:

1. Compliment "that's a great scarf"
2. Qualify the compliment "it matches your mascara and shoes, I like that"
3. Challenge her or enquire "did you choose it yourself?"

Thanks to Geoff of RSD for educating me on point 3.

Some examples:

1. "You're very confident... I like that in a girl... How did you get to be like that?"
2. "Nice dreadlocks!... They must have taken ages... Aren't they hard to clean?"

How To Act On The First Date

"How should I act on the first date? What should we talk about? How do you keep the conversation interesting?"

These are all questions that I get asked often in one way or another, and in this dating tip I'd like to address this topic.

The first thing to remember when you're meeting up with a girl for "a date" is that it's NOT an INTERVIEW.

You're not applying for a job (and neither is she), so don't act like it.

It's so funny to me when I sit down in a restaurant and I hear a couple that's obviously out on their first date... and the guy has no idea what to do.

It sounds like this:

"So, did you grow up around here?"

"Where did you go to school?"

"Do you have brothers and sisters?"

"What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?"

Painful.

Why is it that people tend to act like they're on job interviews when they go out on dates?

It's just such the not-right thing to do.

I mean, no wonder women sit around with each other and complain about how hard it is to find an interesting guy in this world.

How to seduce the kind of women you always want
Guys who have lower self confidence when it comes to women like to think that they don't "deserve" to get the kind of women they want deeply inside. Well, if you belong to this group I have good news for you. Just keep reading!

I usually put women into 3 categories: in the first there are ugly or average looking girls. In the second category there are girls with "supermodel" looks. And I named the last category, "girls you really like". The first needs no explanation. The second category changes by time and fashion: currently, it's girls who are 180cm tall, who weigh 50kg and who have mostly blonde hair and a certain type of face. When we talk about "hot girls" we like to talk about girls in this category. But what about the third?